“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17 – NIV) Today, I launch a new clergy collegial blog. I hope we will encourage and empower each other toward success and excellence in pastoral ministry. As I sit in the Pastor’s Study at Cambria Heights Community Church, I often ponder the possible feedback of clergy colleagues as it relates to preparing sermons, counseling in particularly difficult situation, designing fresh worship, balancing competing priorities of ministry, marriage and family, maintaining self-care, pursuing personal dreams and private interests outside of ministry and family, and finding resources to meet the ever evolving and changing needs of the people whom I serve. After a sustained period of prayer, reflection and meditation, I realize I can invite you to come “In The Pastor’s Study” for an exchange of ideas.

Showing posts with label Funeral Arrangements. Show all posts
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Thursday, January 5, 2012

Funeral Materials - General Bereavement Letter


General Bereavement Letter

 5 January 2012



Dear Brother/Sister:


The congregation of Cambria Heights Community Church joins me in expressing condolences to you and your family in the loss of your relative.  The scriptures reveal Almighty God is the God of all comfort.  May His abiding love and sustaining presence provide consolation to your immediate and extended family during this hour of bereavement.  The Bible encourages us to “mourn with those who mourn.”  As your brothers and sisters in the family of Christ, we share in your loss and seek to provide God’s comfort.

While this is undoubtedly a very hard time for you, there are many decisions you will need to make within the next few days.  I have attached a few documents, which I hope will assist you in the process of planning a funeral to celebrate your loved one’s life.  The attachments include an outline for writing an obituary, a model of a funeral service and a list of some of the decisions you will need to make.  Hopefully, these pieces will lessen the difficulty of this process.

In the midst of this bleak hour, I ask Almighty God to reveal His presence to you.  May many memories of pleasant times shared with your loved one flood your mind.  Time, which heals all wounds and fills all voids, will be kind to you.  Finally, I pray you will find daily renewal as the enduring love of family and friends strengthens and supports you.


In the love of Christ,
The Reverend Victor Michael Singletary
 Pastor

Funeral Materials - Committal and Interment Service


Committal and Interment Service

Opening Sentences

 Thou knowest, Lord, the secrets of our hearts; shut not thy merciful ears unto our prayer; but spare us, Lord most holy, O God most mighty, O holy and most merciful Savior, thou most worthy Judge eternal, suffer us not, at our last hour, for any pains of death, to fall from thee. Amen

I heard a voice from heaven, saying unto me, Write, From henceforth blessed are the dead which die in the Lord: even so saith the Spirit; for they rest from their labours. Revelation 14:13

Deliver me, O Lord, from eternal death in that dread day when the heavens and the Earth shall be shaken, and you will come to judge the world by fire. I tremble in awe of the judgment and the coming wrath. Day of wrath, day of calamity and woe, great and exceeding bitter day. Rest eternal grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them.

Alleluia. May flights of angels sing thee to thy rest.
Remember me O lord, when you come into your kingdom.
Give rest O Lord to your handmaid, who has fallen asleep.
The choir of saints has found the wellspring of life, and door of paradise. Life: a shadow and a dream.
Weeping at the grave creates the song:
Alleluia. Come, enjoy rewards and crowns I have prepared for you.


We gather at the final resting-place for our dearly departed sister or brother, NAME, God’s servant. 
We offer praise and honor with thanksgiving to Almighty God for the gift of NAME’s love, life and service. 

We affirm the words of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who said, “I am the resurrection and the life, saith the Lord: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live; and whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die.” (St. John 11:25,26)

With faithful gratitude, we invoke the Spirit of the God of all comfort who comforts us in the midst of this hour.

Prayer of Committal – Adapted from the Mozart Requiem
Grant unto NAME eternal rest, O Lord and
Let everlasting light shine on him or her.
To thee, O God, praise is meet in Zion,
And unto thee shall the vow be performed
In Jerusalem, Hearken unto our prayer:
Unto thee all flesh shall come.

King of awful majesty,
Who freely saves the redeemed,
Save us, O fount of mercy.

Remember, most merciful Jesus,
That NAME was the cause of your journey,
Lest thou lose him or her on that day.

Seeking him or her did thou sit weary:
Thou did redeem him or her, suffering the cross.
Let not thy labor be frustrated.
Thou who did absolve Mary,
And did hear the thief’s prayer
Has given hope to NAME also.

Give him or her a place among thy sheep

And put him or her apart from the goats
Setting him or her on thy right hand.

To thee, O Lord, we render our

Offerings and prayers with praises.

Do thou receive them for this soul

Which we commemorate today;
Which thou did promise to
Abraham and his seed.

Lamb of God that takes away the sins

Of the world; grant NAME rest.
Lamb of God that takes away the sins
Of the world: grant him or her eternal rest.

Let everlasting light shine upon NAME,
O Lord, with thy saints, for thou art merciful.

Grant to the departed eternal rest, O Lord,
And let everlasting light shine upon him or her.
Amen.

The Words of Committal

In as much as it has pleased Almighty God

In His infinite wisdom and providence

To take from amongst us

our dearly departed brother or sister, NAME,

We, therefore, commend his or her spirit to the mercy

Of our Creator, Redeemer and Sustainer

From whom he or she came

Accordingly, we commit his or her body to the earth

From which it came

Earth to earth

Ashes to ashes

Dust to dust

We offer this commendation and committal

In the confident hope

Of the resurrection of the dead in Christ Jesus,

The return of our Lord and Savior,

And the joyous life reserved for the children of light

In the glorious and heavenly realms.

The Benediction

My friends
May the God of peace
Who through the blood of the eternal covenant
Brought back from the dead
Our Lord Jesus, that great Shepherd of the sheep
Equip you with everything good for the doing of his will
And may he work in us what is pleasing to him
Through Jesus Christ
To whom be glory, power, dominion and praise
Forever and ever.  Amen

Funeral Materials - Outline for Writing an Obituary


Outline for Writing an Obituary

Brainstorming

¨      The full name of the deceased (including nicknames)
¨      The time and the place of the death
¨      The names of father and mother
¨      The place and date of birth
¨      The schools which the deceased attended and from which he/she graduated and earned degrees
¨      Relevant marital information
¨      The facts about children
¨      The facts about siblings and other significant relatives (aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, in-laws)
¨      The important employment information (major jobs, titles, promotions and contributions)
¨      Military service (period, rank, honors, etc.)
¨      Community service
¨      Fraternity, sorority and similar affiliations (Lions, Mason, Elks, Shriners, Eastern Stars, etc.)
¨      Hobbies and other personal interests of the deceased (those activities in which he/she found his/her reason for being and the joy of life).

Outline


I.                   Full name and nickname

Date and place of birth
Parental information
Date and place of death

II.                Education information
Schools – dates of attendance
Graduations and degrees

III.             Church information

IV.             Employment history

V.                Community service

VI.             Fraternity, sorority and similar affiliations

VII.          Military service (may be at Points II or IV depending upon the career of the deceased

VIII.       Hobbies and personal interests

IX.             Marital Information

X.                Facts about children

XI.             Siblings and other significant relatives and friends

XII.          A concluding sentence affirming the Christian faith


Funeral Service - General Model


Funeral Service – General Model

Prelude


Processional                                              
                                                         
Call to Worship

Invocation

Hymn of Adoration & Praise                                               

Old Testament Reading

New Testament Reading

Selection                                                    

Tributes/Words of Comfort & Condolence

Acknowledgments

Obituary Reading

Selection    

Affirmation of Faith: Recitation of The Apostles’ Creed                                         

Eulogy                                                      

Recessional Hymn                                    

Recessional

Special Requests by the Family

Sometimes, family members request favorite Scriptures, poems, hymns or particular seating arrangements.  These requests are favorably considered and accommodated as Church policy and resources permit

Funeral Arrangements Checklist


Funeral Arrangements

In preparation for the funeral to celebrate the life of a loved one, congregants need to make several major decisions within forty-eighty hours of the death.  The following checklist contains items relating to planning a service of celebration and resurrection.

ü Cars – for relatives and close friends
ü Casket type
ü Cemetery – confirm plot & interment arrangements
ü Clothing for the decedent
ü Date of the service
ü Death certificates – number needed to conduct business during & after bereavement period
ü Meal after the service – when, where, who will prepare?
ü Minister who will eulogize the decedent – notify ASAP
ü Minister who will officiate the service – notify ASAP
ü Order of service – see attached model
ü Photograph of the decedent
ü Place of the service
ü Programs – type and number
ü Thank you – keep a list of all expressions of condolences and acts of kindness: calls, visits, flowers, telegrams, meals, and other gifts.
ü Time of the service